Friday, January 30, 2015

What if we followed the example of our tiny monsters

I have been watching women for years attempt to find balance between their fitness, nutrition and life. The thing that I personally loved doing (and I find other women do too) is hating myself. We don't call it "hating myself" but that is totally what it is. If I was watching my daughter live a life in a perpetual cycle of :

Wow I'm fat
diet
hunger
eat
gain
hate myself
diet
lose weight
can't maintain this
eat
gain
hate myself

what would I think about this... I would think "What the crap is wrong with her! Why can she not see how amazing she is!"
My monsters
What if... What if I decided to treat myself the way I would treat my daughters. What if I decided to love myself into health instead of hate myself into "health".

My kids can destroy a bedroom. They run downstairs and continue on with life like they didn't just let a tornado lose in their room. I  of course say' "Hey now monster go clean that mess up" ... they of course respond with "I can't!" You see the idea of that little body going and organizing and picking up every toy they own is just too overwhelming. Their reaction is normal, it makes sense because a lot of times when people get overwhelmed they melt down. I could make my little people totally insane by telling them over and over "go clean it."  That would get us no where... it would get us both coo coo for cocoa puffs.
The thing I have figured out after 5 kids is that they need ways to attack it piece by piece. When little monsters release tornadoes in their room  and  they say "I can't clean it mom" I actually believe them. I now respond with things like "go pick up all the clothes". The crazy thing is they come back and say "DONE! What next". My next step is to get up all the little things of torture out of the floor, "OK little monster go pick up all the Legos!" The crazy thing is they go do it AND they are in good spirits about it. They are very proud of their accomplishment. (See how we accomplished the same end goal with love and happiness NOT insanity and madness)
I have learned through my kids that sometimes we can't see how to attack the larger picture and we need it broken down into bite size pieces. What if instead of our same cycle of hate-diet-torture that we seem to love. What if instead of  assigning ourselves the perfect diet or the perfect gym schedule... what if we simply put it into bite size pieces.
What would happen to the crazy roller coaster of ours if instead of saying:
 "I am going to go from eating what I want and not working out to eating only whole foods and working out five days a week".
 What if we replace that all or nothing thinking with something more livable.
 "I am going from eating what I want and not working out to I will workout 2 days a week and try to add a vegetable everyday to my food."
What if we stopped the crazy cycle that has always failed us and just took bite size pieces towards health. What would happen if we decided to love ourselves slowly into good habits that would last a lifetime instead of making our health journey a series of diet cycles, expired gym memberships and self hate.

 

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